Thought for the WeekWhat was true when I was ten years old, was different to when I was twenty and it had changed again by the time I was thirty. For example, when we are young our parents are generally the only adults we trust. As teenagers we saw them as the enemy, trying to enforce their rules on our developing free spirits. By the time we get into our twenties we begin to see how they have helped us, for better or worse, in getting us to where we are at this stage of our lives. As we grow older, possibly as a parent ourselves, we get a better understanding of how they did the best they could for us at the time. So the truth and our understanding of our parents changes as we get more experience.
A chocolate biscuit
The truth is also dependent on how we look at things, our attitude, our involvement with it and what we expect from it. Just to illustrate this, let’s take something as simple as a chocolate biscuit. For most of us it is a pleasant snack to have with a cup of tea or coffee. If we were a cook, a nutritionist or a shop owner we would have a different view of the biscuit.
The CookThe cook will look at a biscuit and see the ingredients, how to make it, what tools will be needed and how to serve, present or package it. Here’s part of the cook’s true vision of a biscuit:
85 g butter
75 g chocolate
200 g sugar
1 tsp vanilla essence
1 egg
150 g flour
35 g cocoa powder
1 pinch of salt
half tsp baking powder
75 g icing sugar
The NutritionistThe nutritionist will look at the same biscuit and will determine the calories, fat, protein, etc. in it. They will also have an opinion as to whether it is healthy or not. Part of their true vision of the biscuit may look like this:
Calories ………….86
Protein……………1.2
Carbohydrate….11.2
Fat…………………4.1
Fibre………………0.4
The Shop OwnerThe shop owner will look at a biscuit and see how it can be sold, how often and at what price. If it is something his customers need and will there be advertising support for it. His vision of the biscuit may look like this:
The purchase price….0.50
The sale price…………0.99
Shelf space needed…high visibility area
Marketing support ….15 second TV ads over the next month
Shelf life………………..12 months
Returns policy………..Sale or return
You and meWhen we, or at least those of us not involved with biscuits, look at the biscuit, we’ll see a nice tasty snack. Some may see it as an enemy of a healthy body, others may see it as a pleasant part of a meal or coffee break.
Different visions of the truth
As we can see, there are four very different visions of the truth behind this chocolate biscuit. All of them are correct and true. If we swap the biscuit for an opinion we have about something or someone, we can begin to see that what we think is true my be completely different from someone else’s viewpoint.
We cannot force our truth on to anyone else. It would be like force feeding someone chocolate biscuits. Just because we think it is a nice food doesn’t mean everyone else does. The person who has been forced to eat chocolate biscuits will have a very different true experience of them than those who enjoy them.
The best we can do is offer our truth, our opinions, our thoughts and our chocolate biscuits to people. It is up to them whether they choose to nibble at them, take one or two or gobble the whole lot. We also have the same freedom, to choose what we wish to accept as true and right for us.
What life is about
This is what life is about. We choose what we think is right for us. We can eat as many chocolate biscuits as we like, believe as many opinions as we wish, accept the thoughts of others as we choose. We then discover what is good for us and what is not. Then we make different choices and learn how to make our lives better, how to bring more love into our lives and share that love with those around us.
We may think we have the best chocolate biscuit in the world and everyone should have it. All we can do is offer it to those we love. It cannot be forced on anyone. If we force it, it changes from a pleasure for us to a pain for them. The love is lost when we force our will on others.
Let’s enjoy our gifts, our blessings and our chocolate biscuits, and offer them to the ones we love, to enjoy if they wish.
*Ed Parkinson