Thought for the WeekDo we really need to win a million to be happy? Is there a way to feel like we've won a million without winning it?
If we won a million today, what would we do with it?
Pay off the mortgage 200,000
Pay off all the home bills 10,000
Pay off loans and credit cards 20,000
Give some money to family and friends 100,000
Buy a house to rent 250,000
Take a nice holiday 20,000
Total 600,000
Now we are left with 400,000 which we might get 2% deposit interest on it, giving us about 150 a week and we should get about 250 a week from renting the house we just bought. That comes to 400 per week. It's not a lot but we should be able to live on it.
We have solved our main problem, having enough money to survive. Now the question is are we happy? We have little or no financial worries but most other things in our lives will be the same. We are still be the same basic person. We'll have the same attitudes, the same friends and family, the same job or occupation, if we decided to keep it, and the same body with its health or other issues.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of NeedsAbraham Maslow created a psychological theory called the Hierarchy of Needs, which puts an order on our needs. Going from the basic need of air and water to the need for personal growth. There are five different levels in Maslow’s hierarchy of needs:
Basic (Physiological) NeedsThese include the most basic needs that are vital to survival, such as the need for air, water, food and sleep. Maslow believed that these needs are the most basic and instinctive needs because all needs become secondary until these are met.
Security Needs
These include needs for safety and security. Security needs are important for survival, but they are not as demanding as the physiological needs. Examples of security needs include a desire for steady employment, safe neighbourhoods and shelter from the environment.
Social NeedsThese include needs for belonging, love and affection. Relationships such as friendships, romantic attachments and families help fulfil this need for companionship and acceptance, as does involvement in social, community or religious groups.
Esteem NeedsAfter the first three needs have been satisfied, esteem needs becomes increasingly important. These include the need for things that reflect our self-esteem, personal worth, social recognition and accomplishment.
Self-actualising NeedsThis is the highest level of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. Self-actualizing people are self-aware, concerned with personal growth, less concerned with the opinions of others and interested in fulfilling their potential.
There are another two levels which Maslow didn’t include.
Self Realisation
The next level would be Self Realisation, where we get to discover who we really are. Why we are here in this life and what we have to do while we are here.
God RealisationGod Realisation is the next level. This is where we strive for an understanding of how the Higher Power, the Life Force, the Holy Spirit, God, Allah, Yahweh, Brahman, Krishna, Sugmad or whatever you wish to call it. It is the natural step after Self Realisation.
Where are we?So where are we with our millionaire happiness? We should have the first two sorted out, Basic and Security. Have we got our social needs organised? Are we dependant on a social group, friends, family, neighbours or workmates for our happiness? Do we get our esteem from our standing with these groups? Do we need the approval of others or are more independent?
Are we at the next level, Self-actualising? On this level we tend to more interested in our personal development, being creative, solving problems, being spontaneous. Or have got to the stage where we realise who we are and our purpose in life? Or could we be on a quest to discover the Higher Power or God?
One of the things we can see here is that as one need is fulfilled, another need appears. It seems we are always going to have some need pestering us, making us a little uncomfortable and unhappy. Part of our nature is always going to be on a quest to fulfil our next need.
This would indicate that our millionaire happiness will only last a while before a need pops up to make us a little unhappy again.
Living in the Now
There is one technique we can use to maintain an ongoing state of contentment and happiness, and that is living in the Now, being present in the moment. Making the most of here and now can help us be balanced and centred in our lives. We are not trying to anticipate the future or undo the past. If we can focus on the here and now, whatever we are doing will be good. We will do it to the best of our ability and do it with love, so that whatever we do will benefit others. We are now putting our attention on where we are at this moment and we have love flowing through us. That’s like winning a million so that we have millionaire happiness here and now, in this moment and any moment we put our attention with love on the here and now.
Wishing you millions of moments of happiness.
*Ed Parkinson
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