Have you ever noticed that as we do things and be of service to people it lifts our mood. Our focus changes from ourselves to others. We move from being self focused to focusing on others and how we can help them.
The secret of service
A friend told me about a manager who ran a centre for homeless people. If there was a client of his in a bad mood or feeling depressed, he would ask them to help him around the building. He may ask them to sweep the floor, help in the kitchen, do a little in the garden. He’d find some way of getting them to do something to help. This ‘work’ would help them move their focus from their negative thoughts to something constructive. After completing the tasks the individual would be in a more positive mood. The manager constantly used this technique to help his clients.
This manager knew the secret of service. He knew that getting his clients to do something for him, the centre or others in the community, started the flow of kindness and love from within them out to others. This flow of love brightened the world around them but also brightened themselves as well. This process confirms the old saying “To get love, you must first give love”.
In our own lives we can see this working in the satisfaction we get when we complete a task or project. Whether it is cooking a meal, writing a card, completing a journey, fulfilling a promise, there is a sense of achievement in doing it successfully.
Unconditional Love
The real secret is using love to do the things we do. If we can do everything with love, an unconditional love, where we do not expect a return for our service, we receive a double benefit. We get love and we get freedom. As we do things with love, it flows out into the world around us. Our world now has a little more love, it becomes a better place for us and those around us. The more love that flows through us, the more love will be in our world. We are brightening our world and those around us as love flows through us.
The second benefit of using unconditional love is freedom. By not putting conditions on the things we do, we are not tied to them. For example; if I cook a meal for you and expect you to return the favour, this ‘debt’ as I see it will always come to mind when we meet. Everything I do with you will be based on my requirement, have you repaid my favour some other way or do you own me more favours? That ‘debt’ which I see owing to me will always colour our relationship until it is repaid or I decide to forget it. I am a prisoner of these thoughts.
On the other hand if I cook you a meal because I enjoy cooking or I have food to get rid of or because I like your company and I don’t expect anything in return, then I have freedom. I don’t feel you owe me anything. When we meet I’m not holding back anything. We can enjoy each other in the moment. I am free to go with the flow of life and accept the gifts it places in my path.
By doing things with conditions, we keep our mind busy with all the little debts we are owed by various people in our lives. It is difficult to keep track of all these things. Doing things with unconditional love releases us of the burden of remembering all these details. Life has a way of keeping track of things and our favours will return to us at a good time.
Love and freedom
Love and freedom are the secrets of service. Giving service without conditions using unconditional love brings love into our worlds and the worlds of those around us. We receive the joy of giving, the reflection of love in those around us and the freedom the live life in harmony.
Give service with love and freedom and enjoy the love and freedom you’ll receive as a result.
With Love and service
*Ed Parkinson